Royal treatment: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry detail racism, suicidal thoughts in Oprah tell-all
ByKelli Dugan, Cox Media Group National Content Desk
Meghan Markle, Prince Harry detail racism, suicidal thoughts in Oprah tell-all (NCD)
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ByKelli Dugan, Cox Media Group National Content Desk
In a wide-ranging television interview with Oprah Winfrey, Meghan, the Duchess of Sussex, and Britain’s Prince Harry spoke bluntly about racism, feeling “trapped,” contemplating suicide and having no regrets about stepping away from royal duties to preserve their marriage and their mental health.
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This image provided by Harpo Productions shows Prince Harry, from left, and Meghan, The Duchess of Sussex, in conversation with Oprah Winfrey. (Joe Pugliese/Harpo Productions via AP)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This image provided by Harpo Productions shows Prince Harry, left, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, speaking about expecting their second child during an interview with Oprah Winfrey. "Oprah with Meghan and Harry: A CBS Primetime Special" airs March 7 as a two-hour exclusive primetime special on the CBS Television Network. (Joe Pugliese/Harpo Productions via AP)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This image provided by Harpo Productions shows Prince Harry, left, and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, in conversation with Oprah Winfrey. "Oprah with Meghan and Harry: A CBS Primetime Special" airs March 7, 2021. (Joe Pugliese/Harpo Productions via AP, File)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This image provided by Harpo Productions shows Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, left, speaking with Oprah Winfrey during an interview. "Oprah with Meghan and Harry: A CBS Primetime Special" airs March 7 as a two-hour exclusive primetime special on the CBS Television Network. (Joe Pugliese/Harpo Productions via AP)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This image provided by Harpo Productions shows Meghan, The Duchess of Sussex, left, in conversation with Oprah Winfrey. (Joe Pugliese/Harpo Productions via AP)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This photo illustration shows people wearing face masks, watch a televised conversation between Britain's Prince Harry with his wife Meghan Markle and US host Oprah Winfrey, in Arlington, Virginia, March 7, 2021. (OLIVIER DOULIERY/AFP via Getty Images)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This photo illustration shows people wearing face masks, watch a televised conversation between Meghan Markle and US host Oprah Winfrey, in Arlington, Virginia, March 7, 2021. (OLIVIER DOULIERY/AFP via Getty Images)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey This photo illustration shows people wearing face masks, watch a televised conversation between Meghan Markle and US host Oprah Winfrey, in Arlington, Virginia, March 7, 2021. (OLIVIER DOULIERY/AFP via Getty Images)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey Australian television news in Sydney, Monday, March 8, 2021, reports on an interview of The Duke and Duchess of Sussex by Oprah Winfrey. (AP Photo/Rick Rycroft)
Photos: Meghan Markle, Prince Harry open up about royal rift in interview with Oprah Winfrey Australian television news in Sydney, Monday, March 8, 2021, reports on an interview of The Duke and Duchess of Sussex by Oprah Winfrey. (AP Photo/Rick Rycroft)
Update 11:18 p.m. ET March 7: The rapid-fire, two-hour special seemed to give viewers the sort of bombshell details they sought before the second commercial break when Meghan revealed she and Harry had actually wed three days prior to their official nuptials.
“I was thinking about it, you know our wedding—three days before our wedding, we got married. No one knows that. We called the archbishop and we just said, look, this thing, this spectacle is for the world. But we want our union between us, so the vows that we have framed in our room are just the two of us in our backyard with the Archbishop of Canterbury,” she said.
The couple’s lavish wedding took place in St. George’s Chapel at England’s Windsor Castle on May 19, 2018, meaning their actual anniversary falls on May 16, according to Meghan.
But the interview turned somber quickly as Meghan detailed the relentless barrage of misinformation spread, primarily by tabloids, about every aspect of her life and the lack of protection the royal family intended to extend to her or any children she and Harry might have as the pressures of royal life mounted.
Without citing specific examples, Meghan told Winfrey that “not only was I not being protected, but they were willing to lie to protect other members of the family, but they weren’t willing to tell the truth to protect me and my husband.”
Meanwhile, Meghan, who is biracial, also told Winfrey that when she was first pregnant with their son, Archie, there were “concerns and conversations about how dark his skin might be.”
Meghan confirmed she was not personally addressed by anyone in the royal family about their future son’s skin tone, but Harry was.
“That conversation I’m never going to share, but at the time it was awkward. I was a bit shocked,” Harry told Winfrey, in the couple’s first interview since stepping down from royal duties.
“That was right at the beginning,” Harry added, noting there had been “obvious signs” of racial tensions that pre-dated their 2018 wedding.
Meanwhile, Harry told Winfrey that meeting and marrying Meghan liberated him in a way he never dreamt possible and that, without her, he never would have been able to step away from the royal family.
“I wouldn’t have been able to (exit alone) because I, myself, was trapped. I didn’t see a way out,” he said, elaborating when pressed by Winfrey that he was “trapped by the system.”
“My father and my brother: They are trapped,” he said, revealing that his exit from the royal family resulted in his being “cut off” financially and that during the height of the tumult, his father, Prince Charles, stopped taking his phone calls.
“It’s been unbelievably tough for the two of us, but we have each other,” Harry said, noting he has used the money his “mum,” Princess Diana, left him when she died in 1998 to fund the couple’s new start apart from Buckingham Palace.
Harry said he has no regrets at all about leaving royal life behind to pursue his new life and family – announcing that their second child, due this summer, will be a girl – but admitting the treatment Meghan endured prior to their exit was “so cruel and so mean.”
Meanwhile, Meghan said her only regret was “believing (the royal family) when they said I would be protected,” but having emerged “on the other side … not just surviving but thriving.”
“I think that all of those things that I was hoping for have happened,” calling it “greater than any fairy tale you’ve ever read.”
Update 9:22 p.m. ET March 7: Britain’s Prince Harry confirmed to Winfrey the gender of the second child he and Markle are expecting this summer.
“It’s a girl,” Harry said, with a broad grin, confirming Archie will soon have a little sister.
The couple also confirmed they intend to call their family complete after their second child’s arrival.
“Two is it,” Markle told Winfrey.
Update 9:17 p.m. ET March 7: Roughly halfway through the two-hour televised special, Meghan told Winfrey that her treatment by the Royal Family coupled with the tabloid assault on every facet of her life and all of the people she loved became a breaking point.
“I just didn’t see a solution … I realized it was all happening just because I was breathing,” Markle told Winfrey, recalling the shame she felt in admitting those feelings and in bringing them to Harry’s attention.
“I just didn’t want to live anymore,” Meghan said, calling her suicidal ideation a “very real and clear and frightening and constant thought.”
She said she remembered most how Harry “cradled” her after learning of her state of mind, but then learned quickly that because of her station, seeking professional help was not an option.
“I share this because there are so many people who are afraid to voice that they need help,” she said, noting that despite her “loss of identity” she is “still standing” and wants others “to know that there’s another side, to know that life is worth living.”
‘If you or someone you know is struggling with with mental health or if you’re in crisis, call the national suicide hotline at 1-800-273-8255
Original report: Meghan Markle, the Duchess of Sussex, told Oprah Winfrey in a widely anticipated televised interview on Sunday that she and Britain’s Prince Harry were actually married three days prior to the official nuptials.
“I was thinking about it, you know our wedding—three days before our wedding, we got married. No one knows that. We called the Archbishop and we just said, look, this thing, this spectacle is for the world. But we want our union between us, so the vows that we have framed in our room are just the two of us in our backyard with the Archbishop of Canterbury...,” she said.
The couple’s lavish wedding took place in St. George’s Chapel at England’s Windsor Castle on May 19, 2018, meaning their actual anniversary falls on May 16, according to the Duchess.
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Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary Meghan Markle arrives for the wedding ceremony of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, near London, England, Saturday, May 19, 2018. (Andrew Matthews/pool photo via AP) (Andrew Matthews)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary Meghan Markle walks down the aisle as she arrives for the wedding ceremony of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, near London, England, Saturday, May 19, 2018. (Danny Lawson/pool photo via AP) (Danny Lawson)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle exchange rings, during their wedding ceremony at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, near London, England, Saturday, May 19, 2018. (Owen Humphreys/pool photo via AP) (Owen Humphreys)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle leave after their wedding ceremony at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, near London, England, Saturday, May 19, 2018. (Owen Humphreys/pool photo via AP) (Owen Humphreys)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this file photo dated Saturday, May 19, 2018, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle leave after their wedding ceremony at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle, in Windsor, England. Meghan Markle has revealed in a television documentary aired Sunday Sept. 23, 2018, that she had a piece of blue fabric from the dress she wore on her first date with Harry sewn into her wedding outfit. (Ben Birchhall/pool via AP, FILE) (Ben Birchhall)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Saturday, May 19, 2018 file photo Meghan Markle and Britain's Prince Harry stand on the steps of St George's Chapel at Windsor Castle following their wedding in Windsor, near London, England. (Jane Barlow/pool photo via AP, File) (Jane Barlow)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Saturday, May 19, 2018 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle ride in an open-topped carriage after their wedding ceremony at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, England. Prince Harry and his wife Meghan are ending their lives as senior members of Britainâs royal family and starting an uncertain new chapter as international celebrities and charity patrons. In January the couple shocked Britain by announcing that they would step down from official duties, give up public funding, seek financial independence and swap the U.K. for North America. The split becomes official on March 31. (Aaron Chown/pool photo via AP, file) (Aaron Chown)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Saturday, May 19, 2018 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and his wife Meghan Markle leave after their wedding ceremony, at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, near London, England. Sunday, May 19, 2019 marks the first wedding anniversary of the besotted couple. (Gareth Fuller/pool photo via AP, File) (Gareth Fuller)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary Prince Harry and Meghan Markle leave St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle after their wedding ceremony in Windsor, England, near London, on May 19, 2018. (Ben Birchhall/pool photo via AP) (Ben Birchhall)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this May 19, 2018, file photo, Meghan Markle and Britain's Prince Harry walk down the steps of St George's Chapel at Windsor Castle in Windsor, near London, England, following their wedding. (Jane Barlow/pool photo via AP, File) (Jane Barlow)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Saturday, May 19, 2018 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle walk down the steps after their wedding at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, England. In a stunning declaration, Britainâs Prince Harry and his wife, Meghan, said they are planning âto step backâ as senior members of the royal family and âwork to become financially independent.â A statement issued by the couple Wednesday, Jan. 8, 2020 also said they intend to âbalanceâ their time between the U.K. and North America (Ben Birchhall/pool photo via AP, file) (Ben Birchhall)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - in this file photo dated Saturday, May 19, 2018, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, right, leave Windsor Castle in a carriage after their wedding ceremony at St. George's Chapel in Windsor Castle in Windsor, England. Royal accounts released Tuesday June 25, 2019, have revealed that the royal couple's home near Windsor Castle, called Frogmore Cottage, was renovated with 2.4 million pounds ($3.06 million) of taxpayers' money for the couple and their new son Archie.(AP Photo/Frank Augstein, FILE) (Frank Augstein)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this May 19, 2018, file photo, the newly married Duke and Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, leave Windsor Castle after their wedding in Windsor, England, to attend an evening reception at Frogmore House, hosted by the Prince of Wales. With two blockbuster British royal weddings this year and an enduring fascination with the Brits, American brides craving a regal look with personal twists can find plenty of inspiration. (Steve Parsons/pool photo via AP, File) (Steve Parsons)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Saturday, May 19, 2018 file photo the newly married Duke and Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle and Prince Harry, leave Windsor Castle in a convertible car after their wedding in Windsor, England, to attend an evening reception at Frogmore House, hosted by the Prince of Wales. Prince Harry and his wife Meghan are ending their lives as senior members of Britainâs royal family and starting an uncertain new chapter as international celebrities and charity patrons. In January the couple shocked Britain by announcing that they would step down from official duties, give up public funding, seek financial independence and swap the U.K. for North America. The split becomes official on March 31. (Steve Parsons/pool photo via AP, File) (Steve Parsons)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary A photo illustration showing a selection of British Newspaper front pages with pictures from the wedding of Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, in London, Sunday, May 20, 2018. (AP Photo/Kirsty Wigglesworth) (Kirsty Wigglesworth)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Tuesday, Oct.16, 2018 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex meet Ruby a mother Koala who gave birth to koala joey Meghan, named after Her Royal Highness, with a second joey named Harry after His Royal Highness during a visit to Taronga Zoo in Sydney, Australia. Sunday, May 19, 2019 marks the first wedding anniversary of the besotted couple. (Dean Lewins/Pool via AP, File) (Dean Lewins)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Oct. 31, 2018 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex greet members of the public during their visit to Te Papaiouru Marae in Rotorua, New Zealand. Prince Harry and his wife, Meghan, are fulfilling their last royal commitment Monday March 9, 2020 when they appear at the annual Commonwealth Service at Westminster Abbey. It is the last time they will be seen at work with the entire Windsor clan before they fly off into self-imposed exile in North America. (AP Photo/Kirsty Wigglesworth, file) (Kirsty Wigglesworth)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Friday, Oct. 19, 2018 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex meet with a local surfing community group, known as OneWave, raising awareness for mental health and wellbeing in a fun and engaging way at Bondi Beach in Sydney, Australia. Sunday, May 19, 2019 marks the first wedding anniversary of the besotted couple. (Chris Jackson/Pool Photo via AP, File) (Chris Jackson)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Thursday, July 26, 2018 file photo, Meghan, Duchess of Sussex and Britain's Prince Harry kiss during the presentation ceremony for the Sentebale ISPS Handa Polo Cup at the Royal County of Berkshire Polo Club in Windsor, England. Sunday, May 19, 2019 marks the first wedding anniversary of the besotted couple. (AP Photo/Matt Dunham, File) (Matt Dunham)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Monday, Feb. 25, 2019 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex, walk together during a visit to the Moroccan Royal Equestrian Sports Complex in Rabat, Morocco. (AP Photo/Mosa'ab Elshamy, File) (Mosa'ab Elshamy)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Wednesday, May 8, 2019 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex smile during a photocall with their newborn son, in St George's Hall at Windsor Castle, Windsor, south England. Sunday, May 19, 2019 marks the first wedding anniversary of the besotted couple. (Dominic Lipinski/Pool via AP, File) (Dominic Lipinski)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Tuesday, Jan. 7, 2020 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex leave after visiting Canada House in London. The Duke and Duchess of Sussex say they will no longer cooperate with several British tabloid newspapers because of what they call âdistorted, false or invasiveâ stories. Meghan and Harry have written to the editors of The Sun, the Daily Mail, the Daily Express and the Daily Mirror saying they wonât âoffer themselves up as currency for an economy of click bait and distortion.â They say stories based on âsalacious gossipâ have upended the lives of acquaintances and strangers alike. (AP Photo/Frank Augstein, File) (Frank Augstein)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Thursday, March 5, 2020 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, the Duke and Duchess of Sussex arrive at the annual Endeavour Fund Awards in London. Harper Collins U.K. announced Monday, May 4, 2020 that it will publish âFinding Freedom: Harry and Meghan and the Making of a Modern Royal Familyâ in Britain and the Commonwealth on Aug. 11. The book will be published in the U.S. the same day by Dey Street Books. (AP Photo/Kirsty Wigglesworth, file) (Kirsty Wigglesworth)
Photos: Prince Harry, Meghan celebrate second anniversary FILE - In this Saturday March 7, 2020 file photo, Britain's Prince Harry and Meghan, Duchess of Sussex arrive at the Royal Albert Hall in London. Meghan, Duchess of Sussex has her first post-royal job: narrating a Disney documentary about elephants. Disney announced Thursday, March 26 that the duchess is lending her voice to âElephant,â released April 3 on the Disney+ streaming service. (Simon Dawson/Pool via AP, file) (Simon Dawson)